Top 10: Life Lessons Learned by My Mid-20’s!

May 11, 2015

I may look back on this and laugh at what I thought I knew after 25, but right now I think turning 26 is that age where you know your womanhood and the power that is included (oh yes, there’s power). That intuition and strength only grows like a superpower as you age. I have made it to that mid-to-late 20’s bracket and this wisdom may just help you. That’s right I am wise, I am an adult and if you are in your 20’s it’s time you own up  to being an adult as well. As un-fun this may be it will benefit you in the long run. 

Top 10 Lessons Learned by Your Mid 20’s

1.  You Don’t Live in this World Alone.

We all owe it to help one another. There are disparities and lack of equity in this world; it is each of our responsibility to give back. Research a cause you care about and donate, volunteer in any way possible, it will make you a better person. I have included photos of how I was blessed to spend my birthday at the Susan G. Komen Global Race/ Washington, DC Race; I have been walking the race for the cure to fund breast cancer programs and research for 3 years and I have worked for  a non-profit for 4 years. I also donate to children in under-developed countries. You will not only learn but grow. Public Health is my passion. Find yours.

2. Fake it Till You Make It (It Works!). 

Confidence will get you very far in life. People think I am fearless or am not phased by failure, that isn’t true but I do wholeheartedly believe in myself. If you are not there yet; it is hard however, it will get you that job you want, the date with the hottie down the hall, they say confidence is key and it really opens doors.

3.  Don’t be Afraid to Take Risks.

Always take risk because the worst may happen regardless, I like to ask myself what is the worst that can happen? Next time you take a risk think about your worry… Does the worst case scenario outweigh the best? Or the unknown? When you are vulnerable or taking a risk it can be unnerving but very rewarding.

4. Love is Real.

You’re too young to allow yourself to be jaded by love. Be very selective of who you decide to love and then go about it genuinely. Make sure the person loves you how you want to be loved and speak the same love language.

5. Work Hard.

Work really fucking hard.

You’re young and smart, millenials are not all entitled brats; we’re smart, innovative & savvy!

6. You’ll be Someone’s Favorites and Someone’s Hated. 

Don’t constantly seek the approval of others, its perfectly fine to be disliked. It’s hard to be constantly pleasing others and you will do it at your own detriment. Say no, and move on. If everyone likes me… I know I am doing it wrong. Just don’t get sucked into Social Media drama, save the Facebook updates for your momma.

7. If You Don’t Know Something Find Out (seriously, there is Google).

Google it.

8. No Time for Regrets.

I wish I payed more attention in Spanish class. Life is too short to be constantly wishing you lived differently. One regret you will have is ruining your credit. Always Pay Back Your Debts.

9.Watch TED Talks.

TED talks are the best thing that will happen to you, you can learn, laugh and debate from your room with the brightest people in the world. They have a million subjects to explore. Nerd it up here.

10. Pay it Forward.

I still make mistakes and hope to grow and learn but I have already learned there are things that I am not good at; one thing particular is that I loose everything. This weekend on my birthday I lost my wallet with cash, debit card and iPhone 6 all in it. Some nice person dropped it off at my house with everything in it; if for some strange way she’s reading this… I love you girl! I will pay it forward and you have refilled my faith in peoples ability to do good. I want to take you to Frozen Yogurt anytime because Karma is real!

I am paying it forward now! Don’t forget to enter The Surprise Birthday Giveaway!!!! You may win. 



73 comments so far.

73 responses to “Top 10: Life Lessons Learned by My Mid-20’s!”

  1. Kathryn says:

    Yes yes yes! Love everything you wrote. TED talks are always so inspiring to me!
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    • Bitemyfashion says:

      Thank you, I agree. I tell everyone to listen to TED talks; they have everything from folklore stories to scientific algorithms.

      xx Falasha

  2. Jeannette says:

    I really enjoy reading this post very much. Not only was it well written but it was also right on point. I am definitively not in my 20’s or 30’s and I wish I knew everything you know now when I was your age. It took me going through many challenging life experiences to realize what you already know now. So congratulations to you for being such a wonderful, driven and super confident woman. It makes me super happy to know that you are in the right track and I have no doubts you are going to get very far in life. Have a blessed week! XOXO, Jeannette

    • Bitemyfashion says:

      You just made my night, thank you for your kind words Jeanette. When I was a child, my mom always said I had been here before lol.
      xx Falasha

  3. Big Sis says:

    Your big sister must have taught you all these great and wonderful things! Stop loosing stuff!

  4. kelsey bang says:

    this is such a wonderful post! love that you like to serve, work hard, and pay it forward! such a great post!

  5. Big sis II says:

    Great post! Well behaved women rarely make history

  6. Lena Chu says:

    Yes I totally can relate to you especially being real with people. What goes around comes around and we really have to put our best (and true) foot forward! Thanks for the share! 🙂 xo~ Lena
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    • Bitemyfashion says:

      Thanks Lena, you’re so right about the true foot… its hard but thats how we create the best memories and meet the best ppl.

      xx Falasha

  7. Jillian says:

    What an inspiring and perfect post. I love to write about these topics, but always enjoy learning from other bloggers and reading their feelings. You hit the nail on the head with these… I personally just took a major risk and it’s been life-changing in a positive way. Fighting fear is key. Thank you for sharing your insight!

    xo Jillian

    • Bitemyfashion says:

      Thanks Jillian,
      I’ll be rooting for you on much success with your ‘big risk’ hun.

      xx Falasha

  8. Sara Covey says:

    Love this post, especially #6. I feel that understanding that makes ALL the difference- great life lesson. 😉
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    • Bitemyfashion says:

      Exactly Sara,
      It’s such a relief to not be caught up on being like, being liked is overrated lol

      xx Falasha

  9. Pree says:

    I have heard about TED talks. I must look into them. & I google E V E R Y T H I N G lol. It’s so useful lol. Love the pay it forward. Positive karma is always amazing <3 Great post!

    • Bitemyfashion says:

      You will not be able to pull yourself away from the really good ones, try Lean In, best Ted Talk for women!

      xx Falasha

  10. Nicole says:

    How lovely and true!! Great post! 🙂

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  11. Joice says:

    Thank you for your comment, such a good reading. I love it!
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  12. Wonderful post! I love all your tips. I have heard about TED talks and hope to hear then more. 🙂
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  13. Shannon says:

    Love this! And agree with all of these especially the fake it till you make it! So true!

    <3 Shannon
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  14. Adeola Naomi says:

    I love listening to Ted talks while working out r just for waking up early in the morning!
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    • Bitemyfashion says:

      I never want to wake up early or workout so maybe I should start using some Ted Talk motivation lol

      xx Falasha

  15. Gabrielle says:

    I completely agree with how confidence will get you far in life.. at least much further than cowering and seeming uncertain of yourself 🙂 All of your points are fantastic!

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  16. I absolutely LOVE this post! You are an awesome inspiration and I love you spreading this wisdom here! Keep it up! 🙂
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    • Bitemyfashion says:

      Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! It was a harder post to write but I figured why not?!

      xx Falasha

  17. Jamie says:

    love this advice.. definitely things that are so important!!

    • Bitemyfashion says:

      Thank you, I probably could have kept writing for 10 more paragraphs lol
      I appreciate the feedback Jamie.
      xx Falasha

  18. Great words, wonderful post!!!
    Kisses, Paola.


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  19. Lynda says:

    Thanks for sharing! Great post!
    xoxox Lynda

  20. Adriana R. says:

    These tips are amazing! Thanks for sharing 🙂
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  21. katie says:

    I absolutely loved these. They were so honest. I love the work really fucking hard one!

    ​xo katie // a touch of teal

  22. Claire says:

    Love 5 and 6! Totally agree!

    God bless,
    XO, Claire
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  23. Christine says:

    Loved these and your honesty! Great life lessons.
    TED talks really are something everyone needs to watch.

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  24. natali says:

    Great words!! such a beautiful post!!
    thanks for sharing!

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  25. my favourite “fake it till you make it”
    great post, sweetie
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  26. Love this post!!!!! I agree with everything here. Let’s just keep this up. xx

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    • Bitemyfashion says:

      hahah just for you, this will be a sticky post till next week.
      I appreciate the support hun!

      xx Falasha

  27. Nina says:

    What a great post. I enjoyed reading. xx
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  28. Darcy says:

    I love number 6. Seroiusly the truest thing and something I wish I knew way back in high school when something like that could ruin my day!

    • Bitemyfashion says:

      Very True Darcy,
      I don’t think I actually realized how many people will dislike you for no reason until I graduated college and shortly after I was okay with that…

      xx Falasha

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  30. Sooo many good ideas!! #5 though… lol… yesss!!

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  31. Michèle says:

    these are really good points on which I can only agree

  32. really nice.
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  33. Chel says:

    Love this! And yes to number 7 haha

    P.S belated happy birthday

    Chel x
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  34. Anastasia says:

    Girl just wait until you’re 30 and you look back on the years between then and now and have learned so much more. I know I have, with my favorite thing being “buy the shoes!”

  35. Naomi says:

    What a fantastic post! Super inspiring. Totally agree with everything and YES TO TED TALKS (sorry, had to be in all caps) I actually just watched another 12 min ted talk video and I just started crying mid-video, didn’t stop till a few minutes after. So good.
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  36. Stephanie says:

    Really great post. Ted talks is awesome!!
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  37. Sahra says:

    I love this! I’m 25 now and have been internally/ not on the web, recounting and looking back on what I’ve learned and it’s crazy! Many of mine are similar to your 🙂

    XO Sahra
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